The last somewhat personal blog post I made (here on July 26), was not widely read, but today I am sharing more personal reflections indirectly related to that post—and to my 83rd birthday, which is tomorrow (Aug. 15).
A Wonderful Life
Although I am experiencing a definite decline in physical energy and the need for multiple 10-minute naps every day, I am happy to say that at the end of my 83rd year I am basically healthy. (Yes, the birthday number marks the end of that year.)
Moreover, I am also basically happy. Last year I published a book mainly for my children and grandchildren. The subtitle of that 186-page book is The Story of My Life from Birth until my 82nd Birthday (1938~2020). But the main title, A Wonderful Life, is problematic.I wrote in the book’s conclusion that “to this point I can
honestly say that it has been a wonderful life—and I don’t mean wonderful in
the sense that I should be praised for it, but wonderful in the sense that I
have for the most part enjoyed the last nearly 80 years that I can remember.”
I can, thankfully, say the same thing now, a year later.
In the book’s brief conclusion, which I finished exactly one
year ago today, I wrote, “I thank God for blessing me with a wonderful life. I
have received God’s grace (unmerited favor) in manifold ways, and I am deeply
thankful for those blessings.”
I fully agree with that statement now, a year later. But
what can I say to those who have not been blessed so bountifully? I am more and
more seeing this as problematic.
Miserable Lives
We have all heard the words, “There, but for the grace of God,
go I.” Those words are generally spoken as an expression of humility,
acknowledging that the good fortune one enjoys is due to God’s grace rather
than to one’s own ability or goodness.
That is all well and good. But here’s the problem: why isn’t
God’s grace more available for all the many people who are suffering so miserably?
Certainly, we must recognize that some people have miserable
lives because of bad choices they have made in the distant or recent past. For example,
more and more people are suffering right now because they spurned covid-19 vaccinations.
However, many suffer through no fault of their own. The
miserable life of some people is directly linked to having been born into a
dysfunctional or an economically poor family.
Or they haven’t experienced what I have because of my white
privilege, male privilege, Christian privilege, and straight/cis privilege,
etc. (This is in no way meant to demean BIPOC, females, non-Christians, or
LBGTQ people; rather, it recognizes that many such persons lack advantages I
have had.)
Compassionate Lives
Perhaps we hurt others unintentionally when we “brag” about
what we have received “by the grace of God.” Instead of thinking about
ourselves and how well off we are, we need to think more about the needs of
others—and work to help disadvantaged people experience more of God’s grace.
That is, many of us need to talk less about our blessings
and listen more compassionately to others talk about their needs.
I have a couple of cousins who regularly post Christian
content (memes) on Facebook. Last week they both posted about how good God has
been to them—and I am truly happy that they are experiencing and acknowledging God’s
blessings.
But one of those cousins also often posts negative things
about “illegal aliens” and the problems they cause in the U.S. Most of those
she criticizes, though, are desperately seeking to improve their misfortunate
lives.
Why isn’t God good to them also? Why does my cousin
experience God’s grace so much more than the suffering refugees and immigrants
from south-of-the-border?
And shouldn’t being graced by God make us more gracious?
So, but
for because of the grace of God, go
I will . . . .









